Good Sex?
February 2, 2009
Sex. Good?
Most women have decided, without any scientific evidence whatsoever, that Justin Timberlake is good in bed. And how would one discover such a fact if it is true? There isn’t a multiple-choice test you can take to determine your bedroom skills. You can’t exactly hand your partner a handy evaluation form like they give you in airplanes and snazzy restaurants and ask them to fill it out before they leave. Short of asking them point-blank or IMing them a few days later with Q&A your not going to get a summary: brief or brutal. Even asking might not get you an honest answer — if people are willing to fake orgasms to protect their partner’s ego, why couldn’t they tell a little verbal white lie, too?
The basic problem even with the idea of being “good” at sex is that sex isn’t an individual sport. every time will not be the same, because every partner isn’t the same. Chemistry can’t be discounted. When I was a little kid they told me practise makes perfect. I’ve taken that advice quite seriously in this regard. Practice however gets you just a little closer to perfect ‘good sex’. Yeah everything they tell you when you grow up comes with fine print and they teach you to ignore it. But, like size, experience isn’t everything.
Finally what does it take to make the other person scream your name in a dozen different languages? Is it a science, art, amalgam of mystic recipes, dirty pornographic movies, a six-pack, sex toys, role-play, contortionist positions, romantic mush or just a sense of humor? You tell me!
Therefore, I decided to conduct an informal survey, asking various women the question: “What makes for good sex?” Answer truthfully. Its for a good cause :]
Stumble It!
spunky munky 
February 3, 2009 at 04:39
1. MOOD/desire
2. Faith in the Other person..
3. Skill
February 3, 2009 at 04:59
A good foreplay makes for good sex. A slow and subtle beginning till such time you are all wet out there steaming. And of course, size does matter! Sex is all about a man trying to satisfy a woman. Hence keeping in mind the emotional quotient of a woman, sex goes beyond the man’s ejaculation. It is imperative that my partner sticks to me after the final act. And of course good sex happens when you are in awe of each other, no more no less. Better still if it is next to a water body (read river, sea, waterfall or fountain–no taps please).
February 3, 2009 at 15:28
I would not know! I am a male, like you totally lost. I have tried to find out too and am still trying to, even at my age! That should not prevent you from trying to break that nut. Who knows? You may just discover what no one else has been able to so far.
February 4, 2009 at 14:26
I think it’s a combination of lots of different factors and not all of them are dependent on the other person. (That’s why I think holiday sex is the best). Anyway, I think it’s a good thing that really really good sex is so elusive … cos if it wasn’t then it would just be ordinary and we wouldn’t enjoy it so much?
On the other hand, BAD sex is more easily defined … and I think the worst is when your partner isn’t really there or doesn’t care about whether you’re deriving any pleasure from it or both.
February 7, 2009 at 13:39
Mood and desire? Desire I understand as possibility seeking expression or function seeking performance and sex is the root or base desire which when unsatisfied leads to alternative forms of expression. I penned this post as an afterthought when a friend of mine asked me if I was giving all the women I meet a ‘good’ time. I’m an awfully secure person when it comes to matters of capability; physical, mental and sensual and my answer was in the affirmative. But that wouldn’t be objective would it? Hence the need for interactive inspiration.
February 7, 2009 at 13:44
Faith in the other person. hmm.. I don’t quit comprehend this. What kind of faith are we talking about? Faith in prowess or fidelity? And skill of course are the stalwart of every erotic explorer and quite indispensable and from my explorations of the act as an art and as a science I have come to establish certain universal truths and reactions which encompass the human body. And yet the every single body is so uniquely different in its similarity.
February 7, 2009 at 13:48
Sex is all about a man trying to satisfy a woman. Amy I couldn’t agree more with that statement. I’m also aware of the fact that women are insatiable. A case in point would be Cleopatra who is known to bed a 100 men a night. Bet they didn’t have trouble enlisting for the army back then. Water does have a hypnotic seductive effect especially when flowing freely which dictates that such an environment be in the outdoors where the elements can bear to the Big Bang theory in practice.
February 8, 2009 at 18:14
The biggest turnoff can be a ‘wham-bam-thank-u-ma’am’ kind of scene, where the guy is only interested in his own pleasure. Where there is emotional involvement, great sex would be a combo of great foreplay, the act itself not being a quickie and then the ‘afterplay’. Most women emotionally involved with the man,seem to like to cuddle up to their man afer the act and if the man falls asleep, turns the other side and starts snoring away to glory, no matter how great the actual act was, it still may not qualify as ‘great sex’.Where there are no emotions involved, its really only the foreplay and the act, with the man sticking by the woman long after he is satiated, to ensure that she is as well, that qualifies as great sex.
February 24, 2009 at 13:45
BAD sex is easyer to define. i think that is all 🙂